We have 2 ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.
Being a good speaker requires a great deal of skill. Like you rightly said, using the teacher as an example, I feel being a great listener is a lot easier than being a great speaker/orator. I could be wrong but that’s what I think.
Back then in high school, we had some subjects taught by some “lullaby” teachers. Once they step into a noisy class, before you know what’s happening, the class becomes as quiet as a graveyard Such classes are usually not interactive. I think it boils down to the saying that: “you become good at what you do when you enjoy it”.
What do you think?
As a public speaker, I know that listening is one of the most important skills in communication. Surprisingly, it's a skill that can or should also be learnt. Apart from what others have suggested, one very important way of learning how to listen is to develop the attitude of a learner. Go into every conversation, even when you're the lead speaker, with the mindset that you want to learn. A person with the drive to learn listens more than a person with the drive to teach.
Then, be less defensive. We always want to speak when we feel there's a need to defend ourselves.
The summary of this two is one thing: be vulnerable. Vulnerability takes away the need to impress. The less you want to impress, the more you want to listen.
To be a good listener first we have to understand how to be a good speaker. As then only you will get to know about what the speaker feels when he/she wanted to get heard.
I hope this will work….
Answer one question - how well do you speak? A person who owns the art of dialogue thoroughly, who has become a master of communication. Only he is able to listen well and hear the other. To develop in the direction of the art of communication - this is recipe)
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