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WHAT MAKES A GOOD SPEAKER?

  • 1 October 2019
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Happy New Month everyone & Happy Independence Day Nigeria! 🌸🌹

I am neither good at speaking nor listening even though I enjoy gisting with friends. I understand that there is a huge difference between gisting and speaking. I am shy and a fast talker. During my high school days, I was a member of the debating club. It helped me a bit. I still don't keep eye contact with my audience; I usually look above their heads. I have tried to curb my shyness by being a member of the lectors (bible readers) in my church. I hope it helps.🤞🏾

Whenever I am delivering a speech or a seminar (especially in a formal setting), I am usually nervous and fidgety for like 2 to 5 minutes. Those past minutes, I am usually stiff with an expressionless face and above all try hard not to rattle my words which appears like I am stammering. Afterwards, I become calm, begin to gesticulate and show expressions on my face. :)
I am mostly relaxed and confident when I am addressing familiar faces/audience of up to 15 people. But when faced with crowd, I am thrown into total disarray. Could that be a sign of claustrophobia?

I would love to improve my English skills: listening, reading, speaking, and writing. Talking on listening skill, @Semakula started a thread on "How can I be a good listener?" and here's the link to the thread: https://coursera.community/personal-development-33/how-can-i-be-a-good-listener-5176
There @Maryam quoted Epictetus, "We have 2 ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak". It feels like I have 2 mouths and an ear 😆 to show how great I am in listening.🙈
Practicing the listening skill is a lot more difficult for me than other skills. Ironically, among the four English skills, listening is my favourite and I usually have the highest score in it.

Please share your tips on how to kill shyness and improve confidence. And most importantly, help a sister have 2 ears and a mouth.🙏🏽💐

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Hi @Terry. You've elucidated the topic so well.


Whenever I am delivering a speech or a seminar (especially in a formal setting), I am usually nervous and fidgety for like 2 to 5 minutes. Those past minutes, I am usually stiff with an expressionless face and above all try hard not to rattle my words which appears like I am stammering. Afterwards, I become calm, begin to gesticulate and show expressions on my face. :)



I clearly remember the first time that I had to deliver a presentation before about 70 people. Being looked at by so many inquiring eyes, I felt like I was a snowball that began to melt! 😳It was a laborious yet informative experience. The next time that I stood before a large audience, I performed better because I had practiced a lot.

Recording myself speaking (to an imaginary large audience) and watching it greatly helped. Not only did it facilitate memorizing the material, but it also enabled me to analyze my body language and movements. This is what really worked for me more than anything else. I hope more members will join the discussion and share their experiences and tips. 🙂
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Thank you @Maryam for your tips. I understand that preparing very well helps a great deal.

Is it cool to practice before a mirror?
My pleasure, @Terry.

Standing alone in front of a mirror? Certainly, it can be good for practicing pronunciation skills. The downside, in my view, is that the speaker cannot easily imagine herself/himself standing before an audience. A mirror can only reflect the presence of the speaker, while in a real conference setting, one has to manage the presence of numerous familiar and unfamiliar faces. Standing before a group of friends and family members could be better…
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Happy New Month everyone & Happy Independence Day Nigeria! 🌸🌹

I am neither good at speaking nor listening even though I enjoy gisting with friends. I understand that there is a huge difference between gisting and speaking. I am shy and a fast talker. During my high school days, I was a member of the debating club. It helped me a bit. I still don't keep eye contact with my audience; I usually look above their heads. I have tried to curb my shyness by being a member of the lectors (bible readers) in my church. I hope it helps.🤞🏾

Whenever I am delivering a speech or a seminar (especially in a formal setting), I am usually nervous and fidgety for like 2 to 5 minutes. Those past minutes, I am usually stiff with an expressionless face and above all try hard not to rattle my words which appears like I am stammering. Afterwards, I become calm, begin to gesticulate and show expressions on my face. :)
I am mostly relaxed and confident when I am addressing familiar faces/audience of up to 15 people. But when faced with crowd, I am thrown into total disarray. Could that be a sign of claustrophobia?

I would love to improve my English skills: listening, reading, speaking, and writing. Talking on listening skill, @Semakula started a thread on "How can I be a good listener?" and here's the link to the thread: https://coursera.community/personal-development-33/how-can-i-be-a-good-listener-5176
There @Maryam quoted Epictetus, "We have 2 ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak". It feels like I have 2 mouths and an ear 😆 to show how great I am in listening.🙈
Practicing the listening skill is a lot more difficult for me than other skills. Ironically, among the four English skills, listening is my favourite and I usually have the highest score in it.

Please share your tips on how to kill shyness and improve confidence. And most importantly, help a sister have 2 ears and a mouth.🙏🏽💐

 

 

 

 

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Hi my fellow,

I can share with you the same problem with a little difference. I am a very good listener but a very bud speaker. I feel like I would never be confident while speaking or discussing something with somebody specially in English.

In general I thing I am not a talkative person, I prefer to listen more than to talk. This matter causes me a lot of bad feeling and disappointment because I can’t express myself properly. Also it makes me feel bored because I couldn’t involve myself with any discussion for long time. 

On the other hand I can listen to others talking about their lives and experience  for many hours without complaining, and I rarely share with them a few words about what they’re talking about.

I don’t know what to do and how can I improve my speaking skills in either languages. 

I don’t believe that is an issue can be solved by practicing. But it is a built in skills, isn’t it ?

 

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@Terry  you wrote a good paragraph or statement  which was really powerful with a  new vocabularies  to me , keeping going , you did very well, thx

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