I am neither good at speaking nor listening even though I enjoy gisting with friends. I understand that there is a huge difference between gisting and speaking. I am shy and a fast talker. During my high school days, I was a member of the debating club. It helped me a bit. I still don't keep eye contact with my audience; I usually look above their heads. I have tried to curb my shyness by being a member of the lectors (bible readers) in my church. I hope it helps.
Whenever I am delivering a speech or a seminar (especially in a formal setting), I am usually nervous and fidgety for like 2 to 5 minutes. Those past minutes, I am usually stiff with an expressionless face and above all try hard not to rattle my words which appears like I am stammering. Afterwards, I become calm, begin to gesticulate and show expressions on my face. :)
I am mostly relaxed and confident when I am addressing familiar faces/audience of up to 15 people. But when faced with crowd, I am thrown into total disarray. Could that be a sign of claustrophobia?
I would love to improve my English skills: listening, reading, speaking, and writing. Talking on listening skill,
Practicing the listening skill is a lot more difficult for me than other skills. Ironically, among the four English skills, listening is my favourite and I usually have the highest score in it.
Please share your tips on how to kill shyness and improve confidence. And most importantly, help a sister have 2 ears and a mouth.