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How to be forever alone but happy?


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Be in couple, or be alone, what’s the good answer for the next 20 years? 


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Happiness is a choice. My passion is getting to know something new, learning something new and sharing to others.  I am single and sometimes I urge to talk to someone. I would recommend, I have my life on my terms so definitely i am alone but I keep myself extremely occupied so that I don’t get time to think that I am lonely. At a time, it hurts, feels like crying but i believe in SEIZE THE DAY so that at the end of the day you get peaceful sleep.

Additionally, i have made my motto as sharing & caring of my students and i do that by LEARNING lots of new stuff. 

In short, i have hunger for knowledge & learning, that is helping me not to feel lonely. 

@Corceltoc good question! But why wait 20 years? Why not now? And, how do you define happiness? What makes one person happy doesn’t necessarily mean it would make somebody else happy. I can look at beautiful flowers and a magnificent tree and feel happy. I can listen to a piece of music that makes me happy.I can play one of my numerous musical instruments and be happy. I can have a really interesting discussion with my husband and be happy. I can have a zoom phone call with my children and feel happy. I can finish a book request and feel happy.I can finish a book or a course and feel happy.

There is no doubt that many people are struggling during this time period. I am happy that I am not sick. I think we need to change our definition of happiness. Some people feel happiest when they are with other people. But if it’s not possible we have to look at alternatives. Letterwriting, phone calls, video meetings such as through zoom or Skype with people, all can help us combat loneliness. Find a project you always wanted to do and just do it. Accomplishing something you always wanted to accomplish is something you could do now. You can learn how to play an instrument. You could learn how to draw and paint. You could make something out of scraps of material you have at home. You can use this time to clean out a closet that’s been needing cleaning for years. Most important, feel productive. Just accomplish something that you could say at the end of the day...”look what I did.” The worst thing you can do, is feel sorry for yourself now. Best of all, you could post interesting questions here to all of us and we can have some lively discussions. Thank you for your thoughts.

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There is no answer that ‘fits all!’

Statistically, men who marry live longer. For women marriage or not makes no difference.

For me, married is essential and I'm happy this way.

You have to learn about yourself before you can answer this question for yourself.

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Happiness is a choice. My passion is getting to know something new, learning something new and sharing to others.  I am single and sometimes I urge to talk to someone. I would recommend, I have my life on my terms so definitely i am alone but I keep myself extremely occupied so that I don’t get time to think that I am lonely. At a time, it hurts, feels like crying but i believe in SEIZE THE DAY so that at the end of the day you get peaceful sleep.

Additionally, i have made my motto as sharing & caring of my students and i do that by LEARNING lots of new stuff. 

In short, i have hunger for knowledge & learning, that is helping me not to feel lonely. 

There is no answer that ‘fits all!’

Statistically, men who marry live longer. For women marriage or not makes no difference.

For me, married is essential and I'm happy this way.

You have to learn about yourself before you can answer this question for yourself.

 

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Thank you for your answers.  Probably, we all, are in a process.  A singular, unique process, for every person, and me.

 

And now I live in the house of my parents, again, at 2008 I begun to live alone, only with me, in my space, well, paying rent, but my space.  Be here now, in the house of my parents,  is confuse for me, I feel rarely.  Because I don’t know if I will be with me again. 

 

I want to help them, and I want to make my own dreams, they need that I help them with my professional expertise at the familiar business, but if I do that, I feel that I will loss my free.  I could have some benefits, like a little economic balance, the opportunity to put my knowledge resources for the family business (a little elemental school on a village), the wonder of living carefree of my financial situation, and in company, with my family, is good, but I want more.

 

And that more, could be my young beautiful and lovely lady, my non-existent couple.  Because I still don’t know her. And if that dream happen, I want that she complement my goals,  and I and my activities, also contribute to her dreams.

 

 

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