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Does Social Media Put Too Much Pressure on You?

  • 25 November 2018
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In these times, with social media being so important, do you feel it poses too much pressure on you? Does the lack of privacy concern you?
Keeping up with all of this “sharing” can be time consuming and leave you feeling presured as well.
Is there too much “sharing” expected these days?

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An interesting question @Judith

I think social media allowed all of us to stay into contact with many people we might not have stayed in touch with over the years, old friends, ex-collegues and what not. However, the downside is the lack of depth of contacts. I think online contact should be combined iwth F2F contact for most fun.

Coursera meet ups are very rewarding experiences. Who is going to be in London in April? We should organize ourselves 🙂
You obviously have to be very selective @Judith , to safeguard your privacy and in the selection of the platforms you choose to use. I feel no pressure at all
@TanjadeBie , you gave excellent examples of how social media can be such a good way to easily reach people., and then hopefully meet up personally.I hope many people can attend the London meetup.
@Lochcarron ,thank you for reminding us to be careful and selective about who you choose to join. If not careful, you could also wind up with so much spam mail.

The pressures I was thinking of have to do with people trying to “friend” many people, who look to see how many “followers” they have, how many “likes” and then take these so seriously. You could have a negative reaction to what people on social media are posting. I have also seen young people play all these games, to post a certain number of photos daily or create a daily blog, these can cause much pressure.
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Social media is a fascinating phenomenon, both for its potential to improve and negatively impact our well-being. I think this is an important thing to talk about – many of my friends do not use social media because they don't feel it brings value to their lives (or rather the stress/anxiety it elicits overrules the positive elements for them). I have taken multiple hiatuses from social media (ranging from months to years in length). I try to maintain an ongoing discernment regarding my use of social media in order to determine what works best for me.

There is a lot of research being done in this field (as you probably know!). Here are just a few pieces that may be of interest:

Teens, Social Media & Technology 2018
A Pew Research Center report

Social Networking Sites, Depression, and Anxiety
A systematic review in the Journal of Medical Internet Research – Mental Health

6 Ways Social Media Affects Our Mental Health
An article in Forbes

I'd be curious to hear from more people. What do you think about social media? Does it place too much pressure on you?
@Laura , thank you for these links. The one about teens amazed me most. Almost every teen has a smartphone these days? Incredible! I also didn’t realize that Smapchat and Instagram were more desirable than Facebook for this age as well. Teens didn’t feel that being constantly involved in social media made much of a difference, which also surprised me. They were briught up with it, having it always available is the way pf life for different from my life...I struggle to understand all this!
Any young folks out there who can explain some of this would be greatly appreciated! Any age, really...I don’t even understand what Snapchat is? .....anyone? Thanks.
You obviously have to be very selective @Judith , to safeguard your privacy and in the selection of the platforms you choose to use. I feel no pressure at all
I agree with @Lochcarron. It is important to be selective.
Interesting discussion! I follow mainly important newspapers, educational entities, and entertaining pages on social media. For me, it is not really important how many people are following me and how many users I am following. I know that some people put a lot of time and energy into growing the number of their followers by sharing personal images. Why do some people take selfies and photos of literally anything and everything they do and post them on their public pages? This is a question that I often ask myself.

A teenager student once told me that she would spend up to 7 hours a day taking impressive selfies for posting on her pages. She thought it had boosted her self-confidence although she admitted that it was eating up her time. The problem was that she could not focus on other tasks and aspects of life. What's more, she was always worried about not getting a lot of likes and complimentary reactions.
@Maryam , this is exactly what I was talking about! Maybe the pressures of social media are different for teens and younger people, than they are to older people. They use it differently, as you described. The studies according to @Laura ‘s article show that teens are constantly on their phones. Should we be alarmed or should we accept that this is what a young person’s world has become? Deos it help make someone feel more confident in themsleves if they are posting photos of themselves all the time?
Yes, @Judith, social media has become an integral part of today's communication, but when it comes to excessive use of social media, I think parents and teachers should step in and make them aware of the drawbacks. For example, they need to know that sharing a lot of selfies and details can endanger their personal data. They can help teens understand why privacy is important and how they can protect it online.

As the third article highlights, "more friends on social doesn’t mean you’re more social".

A couple of years ago, a study found that more friends on social media doesn’t necessarily mean you have a better social life—there seems to be a cap on the number of friends a person’s brain can handle…

In my view, this is also a key point that some teens may not be aware of.
@Maryam , adults do need to step in, however it becomes a very interesting dilemma here because many adults do not have the same skills or understanding of social media the way their children do. A parent might think their teens are just posting photos of themselves to friends the way we would share real photos with others. There needs to be more education given to parents as to the potential dangers of online social sites. Although there have been some warnings, by giving teens their own phones, they have unlimited access to potentially dangerous sites.

It is certainly illusional to think you have more “friends “ because your social media says so! How can you ever be a true friend to so many people?